I’ve spent a lot of my 20s struggling with my career and finding a way to make a living without selling my soul. What I enjoyed didn’t pay me and What paid me I didn’t enjoy. I changed my major 4 times in college and still didn’t graduate. Where was this thing that was supposed to feed my soul and bring me happiness?
The lesson I’ve been forced to learn as I embark into the next decade of my life is that your purpose is not about getting what you want out of life, it’s about what you can do to make life better as a whole for everyone. I’d been looking at everything wrong, my purpose wasn’t about spending more time having fun and loving myself, purpose is about shaping yourself to be of service to others. In order to fine tune this process I had to go within and challenge myself, these are the questions that I had to ask.
Question 1: What is something I can do that has a positive impact on the people around me?
Perhaps people always line up to see what delicious recipes you’ve come up with, or everyone is always asking you to babysit because their kids love you. It may even be as simple as being a good listener or having an infectious smile. These ordinary favors that come as second nature to us offer great insight into what paths we should embark on.
Question 2: Is there a challenge I’ve over come that I can help others overcome too?
I’ve had quite a few major traumatic events in my 20s. From Cancer, to an abusive boyfriend to gaining 40 pounds, fighting my own loneliness, to learning to eat low carb and gluten free after I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. Chances are whatever hell you’ve overcome has a huge following of people still trying to get through the same inferno. It’s our duty as human beings in a position to offer guidance to do so. Again this isn’t looking at it from a point of view of what do I like to do with my time, this is a perspective of being of service.
Question 3: When It’s my time to go, what do I want to be remembered for?
In her TED talk, NY Times best selling author Billur Suu talks about writing your obituary to discover your purpose, Which you can watch here , . Chances if you reflect on what you’re leaving behind, your first thought won’t be about getting a nicer house or having more success in your career, you’ll think about what people are thanking you for, what brought you peace and what brings you joy and the joy you were able to share with others. When everything physical you know turns to dust, what part of you will live on?
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